What is it with us lesbians and our ex’s? We just can’t seem to get enough of them.
When I was growing up as a good little hetero, past partners always seemed a taboo subject. They were never brought up in conversation for fear of scaring off dates or seeming like we were still hung up on an ex.
Now, I haven’t been out that long, but when listening to fellow girl gays talk, an ex is a perfectly reasonable, and in a sense, a necessary topic to be covered in conversation.
But the weird thing is...I already share this weird desire. I want to talk about my past girlfriends and flings. Even worse, I want to hear about other peoples. It’s like I crave the morbid details of the highs and lows of partners past relationships...it’s kind of twisted when you think about it.
Anyway, this is a topic that has been on my mind recently since R’s past girlfriend is coming to stay for a week (Dear Lord, I hope it’s just one week) because she’s got some things to sort out with the Uni before she can start renting her own house. (Yes that’s right...she’s also coming to the same Uni as us...GRAMA ALERT)
Now I am trying to be good. I am trying to do the Christian thing regarding the “do unto others” malarkey...but it’s going to be difficult.
Me and R met at Uni and when we met, R was still with her girlfriend J. In a totally platonic way, R and me hung out a lot, and J used to unfortunately always chose these points in time to phone R for a chat. This resulted in the phrase “Sorry, I’m with T right now” to be ringing in J’s ears a fair bit.
Needless to say...she doesn’t like me.
And now is coming to live in our house with us for a week.
Has anyone else experienced and/or survived this mildly disturbing situation? Advice or tips would be awesome.