So here’s a controversial topic.
Now see, already I’m worried about writing on this topic because I’m not even sure if it’s trans or trans*(with an asterisk).
And I know that either “transgender” or “transgendered” can be offensive to a lot of people…but I can’t for the life of me ever remember which one.
As far as I understand it (which is not very far), an asterisk after trans is an effort to include all other non-binary gender identifying peeps. And the term “transgender” is generally preferred to “transgendered”, I think because adding an “-ed” onto the end makes it a verb, when it’s actually an adjective.
I’m not queer-ed.
I’m just queer.
But either way, what I want to write about is the letter T in general, and its place in the ever-growing acronym that started as LGBT and now resembles a rack of letters in a game of scrabble.
So. The hard question. Who do we let into our acronym?
While L,G and B all share an obvious connection, when it comes to T…it’s a bit of a sore thumb for some people. And, yes, we’re all fighting for equal rights… but so are a lot of diverse groups, and we don’t invite them into our acronym. We don’t add a “D” for disabled. The “B” doesn’t stand for black.
Just because someone is trans(*), doesn’t make them gay. We are 2 separate groups. One is about gender. The other, sexuality. Though I guess when you come down to it, it is all to do with people’s morbid fascination with our genitals and what we do with them.
But there’s more to it than just whether our junk dimples or dangles. We’re all outside of the (and I hate this word) “heteronormative” majority, and because of that, we’re judged and discriminated against. We all have to go through the joy that is coming out to family and friends. And of course we all have to deal with ridiculously personal questions about what we got goin’ on in our pants and how we like to use it from people we barely know.
So when you think about it, does the distinction really matter? Yes, maybe it can seem like the T is the odd letter out, but social progression happens when minorities band together, because then maybe we stand some slither of a chance of educating people and maybe changing some block headed views.
So when we add the 0.2% of the population that identify as trans, with the whopping 2-6% of the population that class themselves as one of the many labels and sub-labels of queer, perhaps we have some chance of forcing some tolerance out of stone hearted politicians or religious leaders or even teachers and parents who are trying to help out an LGBTeen but doesn’t really know where to start.
So before we can even think of raising awareness for the wider world, first we need to tackle any misunderstandings we have going on in our own LGBT world.
..and on that note, I’m so sorry for anything I may have incorrectly written that has caused any offence, or is in fact just completely wrong. But please, please, leave a comment. Correct me (nicely). Help me and the rest of our community understand so we can pass the know-how onto others.
And please accept my heartfelt welcome and internet love for your well-deserved place in the wonderfully all inclusive LGBT acronym.